tammy will you be delighted now? Yes i’ve tried speak with him , absolutely cant reach him. If We cry he’s either crazy at me personally or laughs at me personally, is totally never ever relocated by me personally. I’ve wondered if he’s a bit psychotic. May be a sweetheart that is total. Do I favor him? Yes although not into the detriment of my psychological health. We do believe we’ve a rather relationship that is bad.
These episodes happen about when an and last a week month.
i’m pleased when I have always been now, its difficult as being a solitary mum but i dont regret my choice. The thing that is only can recommend is you need to do what exactly is perfect for your self along with your young ones. if you are unhappy, your young ones wont be. exp constantly complained that dd should have a suitable household (as in me and him being together) but we wasnt likely to invest the others of my entire life unhappy. besides i was raised with no dad, and I also think we ended up fine. and its own perhaps maybe perhaps not like he cant see dd, although he doesnt precisely most of an attempt for me.
i dont really understand what else to recommend regularhiding.
or theres counselling, but we do not understand if it will be of any assistance
regularhiding, i truly feel for your needs and know very well what it is prefer to have your spouse laugh at you if you are crying (my ex did this in my opinion a great deal).
Could I simply state that I think these nasty streaks could get to become more and more regular and it’s also bad so that you could feel you must walk on eggshells (or the young ones while they will sense a stress floating around).
You will find 2 items that you might do. First, the next occasion he threatens to leave, phone their bluff and simply tell him “there is the home”. The main reason we state this might be he understands without him and he is playing on this (sorry but the phrase “power trip” comes to mind) that you think you can’t live. Or you could decide to try asking him why he seems the necessity to be nasty to you personally, but I have the sensation this could either get laughed at or end it all on you with him being in a sh**ty mood/blaming.
Should you choose believe that the only real explanation you’re with him is the fact that you feel you mightn’t cope alone, then please know that yes you can easily cope alone and that he is revelling into the undeniable fact that he is able to treat you the way he likes as you could not keep him. I understand this from very very very first hand connection with my ex. He additionally thought i really couldn’t cope without him around (therefore did we for some time) but he got a surprise whenever their energy trips backfired on him and I also took my DS1 and relocated 500 kilometers getting away from him.
I am sorry if i have overstepped the mark or which you feel i will be being too harsh on the spouse exactly what he could be doing to you noises nearly the same as just what my ex had been doing in my experience maybe not well before he started hitting me personally
sorry to listen to this, regularhiding. I believe hiddenspirit’s post makes a great deal of feeling, sadly.
This noises, at least, like psychological punishment in my experience. You noticed any other pattern emerging when you say these episodes occur once a month and last for a week, have? Will there be such a thing which appears to trigger them?
The worrying thing is that there *is* violence, not inclined to you – yet. Maybe you have to seek help that is professional. If he will not get, you could test speaking with your gp in the first place.
Positively think you have got issue there. Concur that if it keeps on like this he might well get violent in your direction or the young ones too. Indicate you retain a journal of incidents and precisely what takes place within the run up to them. Decide to try composing it from his viewpoint and from yours. Should assist you to workout exactly exactly exactly what their reasoning is and whether you’re willing to live along with it all or otherwise not. That he needs help if he won’t speak to you perhaps he’ll at least read what you’ve written and come to realise. For the time being I would personally type bullying into google to discover you skill to stop your self being bullied. Additionally look up domestic abuse. Allow it continue and you will lose your children’ respect along with your very own self self- self- confidence. Wonder if it is a response to your AF or something like that regular at the job? Whatever, he can not act by doing this. You CAN manage without him!